by Mary Linda Kleinman


We see God through eyes that see our earthly father as our example and we can’t help but fall into the trap of comparing and thinking of God as being like our own Dads sometimes.  In distinguishing between the image of God and our earthly father:

  • We need to forgive our earthly father for anything he did and then for not being the Dad we needed or wanted, if that is the case. Then we need to ask God to forgive us and our fathers (ancestors) for what has happened in the past–any sins or tendency to sin in a given way. (Daniel 9:4-19)
  • We need to be transformed by the renewing of our mind and the washing with water through the Word.
    Romans 12:2:  “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world (in this case, as we see God), but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
    Ephesians 5:26b:  “..just as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the Word..”
  • We’ve been brain-washed that God is one way; we need to wash our brain with the Truth from the Word of God to believe Who God really is.


 I.  GUIDANCE  (To heal from a father who didn’t give direction or instructions for life.)

Our Father guides us through His Word.
“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path.” Psalm 119:120

We don’t have to worry about fulfilling our own purpose.
“The Lord will fulfill His purpose for me.” Psalm 138.8

Our lives are in our Father’s Hands and He wants what is best for us
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.”  Jeremiah 29:11

As we yield our lives to Him, He will show us what He has planned for us.

Our Father doesn’t want us to fret about anything.
 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Phillippians 4:6-7

Our Father does not want us to strive.
“Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.  Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30
“Cease striving and know that I am God;..”  Psalm 46:10a (NAS)

Our Father wants us to enter into His rest.
“For we also have had the gospel preached to us, just as they did; but the message they heard was of no value to them, because those who heard did not combine it with faith.  Now we who have believed enter that rest..” Hebrews 4:2-3  “There remains, then, a Sabbath-rest for the people of God; for anyone who enters God’s rest also rests from his own work, just as God did from His.  Let us, therefore, make every effort to enter that rest, so that no one will fall by following their example of disobedience.  Hebrews 4:9-11

We don’t have to earn our own righteousness; it is a gift from our Father.
“God made Him Who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in Him we might become the righteousness of God.”  II Corinthians 5:21

We give Him our sin; He gives us His righteousness.

Our love for our Father and others is a response to His love for us.
“We love Him because He first loved us.”  I John 4:19

We need to believe our Father’s love first before we can really love Him and others.

Our “Father Knows Best.”
“If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” James 1:5

Our Father’s guidance is for our good–for life and health.
“My son, pay attention to what I say; listen closely to my words.  Do not let them out of your sight, keep them within your heart; for they are life to those who find them and health to a man’s whole body.”  Proverbs 4:20-22

II. LOVE (To heal from a father who didn’t love all the time or was never there.)

Our Father is comforting and merciful.
“Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort..” II Corinthians 1:3

Our Father chose us before the foundation of the world.  We are accepted totally by Him.
“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, Who has blessed us with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ, according as He has chosen us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him, in love having predestined us unto the adoption of sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will, to the praise of the glory of His grace, through which He has made us accepted in the Beloved;” Ephesians 1:3-6

We will never be abandoned (emotionally or physically) by our Father in Heaven.
“Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” Hebrews 13:6

Our Father will not be one way one minute and another way the next.
“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.” Hebrews 13:8

Just as a loving father sings his baby to sleep, so our Lord quiets us with His Love.
“The Lord your God is with you. He is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you. He will quiet you with His love. He will rejoice over you with singing.” Zephaniah 3:17

Our Father loves us with an everlasting love.
“I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with lovingkindness.” Jeremiah 31:3

We are the “apple of our Father’s eye.”
“He shielded him and cared for him; he guarded him as the apple of His eye.” Deuteronomy 32:10

Our Father wants to take care of us; we are valuable to Him.
“Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?”  Matthew 6:26

Our Father wants to meet all our needs.
“And my God will meet all your needs according to His glorious riches in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19

Our Father wants to give us good things.
“He satisfies my desires with good things, so that my youth is renewed like the eagles.” Psalm 103:5
“Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:4

It gives our Father pleasure to give us our “inheritance.”
 “Fear not, little flock, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the Kingdom.”  Luke 12:32

Our Father loves to give to us.
“Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good; His love endures forever. Let them give thanks to the Lord for His unfailing love and His wonderful deeds for men, for He satisfies the thirsty and fills the hungry with good things.” Psalm 107:1,8

Our Father cares about us and He will take care of all of our concerns.
“Casting all your care upon Him; for He cares for you.”  I Peter 5:7

Our Father will always be there for us.
“Your love, O Lord, reaches to the heavens, your faithfulness to the skies; your righteousness is like the mighty mountains, your justice like the great deep. O Lord, you preserve both man and beast. How priceless is your unfailing love.” Psalm 36:5
  “Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” Lamentations 3:22-23

Our Father has our pictures in the palms of His Hands forever.
“Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; your walls are ever before me.” Isaiah 49:14-16
Just as a loving father carries pictures of his children in his wallet..

Our Father has an inheritance for us that will never perish.
“In His great mercy He has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade–kept in heaven for you, who through faith are shielded by God’s power until the coming of the salvation that is ready to be revealed in the last time.” I Peter 1:3b

Our Father carries us.
“Let the beloved of the Lord rest secure in Him, for He shields him all day long, and the one the Lord loves rests between His shoulders.” Deuteronomy 33:12b
“He will feed His flock like a shepherd; He will gather the lambs with His arm, and carry them in His bosom, and gently lead those who are with young.” Isaiah 40:11
“Even to your old age, I am He, and even to gray hairs I will carry you! I have made, and I will bear; even I will carry, and will deliver you.”  Isaiah 46:4

Our Father is very generous.
“How priceless is your unfailing love! Both high and low among men find refuge in the shadow of Your wings. They feast on the abundance of Your house; You give them drink from your river of delights. For with you is the fountain of life; in Your light we see light.” Psalm 36:7-9

Our Father is full of forgiveness and love.
“You are kind and forgiving, O Lord, abounding in love to all who call to you.” Psalm 86:5

Our Father will always keep His promises.
“The Lord is faithful to all His promises and loving toward all He has made.” Psalm 145:14

Our Father picks us up when we fall.
  “The Lord upholds all those who fall and lifts up all who are bowed down.” Psalm 145:14
Our Father lifts us up when we are feeling down or make mistakes.

Nothing can separate us from our Father’s love.
“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39

Our Heavenly Father’s love will never fail.
“O Israel, put your hope in the Lord, for with the Lord is unfailing love and with Him is full redemption.” Psalm 130.7

III. DISCIPLINE (To heal from a father who was harsh.)

We don’t have to be afraid to tell our Father our sins.
“O Israel, I will not forget you.  I have swept away your offenses like a cloud, your sins like the morning mist.  Return to Me, for I have redeemed you.” Isaiah 44:21b-22

Our Father is faithful to forgive us.
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” I John 1:9

Our Father disciplines us for our good.
“My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when He rebukes you, because the Lord disciplines those He loves, and He punishes everyone He accepts as a son. Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father? If you are not disciplined (and everyone undergoes discipline), then you are illegitimate children and not true sons. Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of our spirits and live!  Our fathers disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, that we may share in His holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.” Hebrews 12:5b-11

Our Father’s motivation for discipline is Love.
“My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline and do not resent His rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those He loves, as a father the son he delights in.” Proverbs 3:11

His rod and staff (instruments of discipline) are a comfort to us.
“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.” Psalm 23:4

Our Father’s commandments give us comfort and security.
“I remember Your ancient laws, O Lord, and I find comfort in them.” Psalm 119:52

We don’t have to “clean up our own act.”
“Search me, O God, and know my heart: test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” Psalm 139:23-24

Our Father offers rewards as a means of motivation, not as His only way of showing love.
“I the Lord search the heart and examine the mind, to reward a man according to his conduct, according to what his deeds deserve.” Jeremiah 17:10

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